Monday, November 15, 2010

Does Your Ex Want You Back?: Guidelines

Does my ex want me back?

This is probably the first question that runs through your mind when he or she begins to show a little interest in you again. By interest I mean trying to spend a little more time with you than before, or you notice that they're trying to flirt with you again. Not just because they answered a text or email back because you sent one first. If you see this, it's okay to let yourself feel some hope, but this is the time to watch what you do, and not just to jump the gun.

But to ease your mind, these are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in you again. If you find that you still want them back, then this is the time, once again, to follow some strategy and not jump straight into things.

At the moment, the best way to play this out is to play hard to get (in moderation). This is probably even the reason why they are showing interest in you again. If you try to jump right back into things, you may end up pushing your ex away again.

Usually at the start up the break up (or end, depending how you look at it), whether you broke up with your ex, or he or she broke up with you, there will be a natural level of missing on both sides, or a longing to get back together. No matter what, your ex is probably going to miss you just because of how many different memories and experience you both shared together. Mixed in with those good memories, however, are other emotions that come into play like past regrets. If you find yourself wondering "does my ex want me back?" Then odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing too.

Unfortunately there could be other reasons for your ex to be showing you interest again. Depending on the the guy or girl, they may just be playing a game. They can see that you still have feelings for them, and may be simply trying to get easy attention, without actually intending to take you back. I have even seen some of my own friends do this with someone they don't like anymore just because they happened to feel alone. So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in getting to spend time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects at the moment.

Even worse, they may be doing this as a way to get revenge for something you may have done wrong in the past. This is why it is so important not to jump back into their life, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you decide to act on it.

This is common, but when it happens, a lot people continue to ask "does my ex want me back?" The best thing you can do, whether they are playing with you or not, is just to continue playing it cool. Continue to play hard to get, in moderation of course. This is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really that serious about getting back with you.

To find out if he or she is really playing you or not, watch to see how they react when you ask them to hang out. If they are just playing with you, then they will contact you when they are looking for attention and turn you down when you ask in return. But if they are serious, then they will ask for your attention and respond positively to your advances as well.

Of course, this isn't fool proof but it's definitely something you now know you can keep an eye out for. Another thing you can try to learn would be how to read body language. Watch to see if he or she leans towards you when you talk (shows interest), whether what you say makes them smile, and other things like that.

Once you realize that they are interested (if they are interested), then it's time to follow a strategy to keep them. One great strategy is spelled out in the Magic of Making up.

Or make up your own. I would definitely recommend a proven strategy like the Magic of Making up; the success of your relationship is up to you.

I hope you have found these guidelines to be useful and that you soon will no longer be asking yourself "does my ex want me back?" Now put these guidelines to use, and get out there!

**If you're a boy and you are trying to win your ex girlfriend back, click here to learn some more easy tips that you can follow.

***If you're a girl and you are trying to win your ex boyfriend back, then click here to learn some easy tips also.

Remember, anything is possible as long as you put your mind to it. You can do it!

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